Listen To Get Your Ex Back

by Johnnie S Laney

When we want to get our ex back, we all tend to think the same kind of things. We’ve got to promise them we’ll change, we’ve got to do some fast talking, we’ve got to apologize fifty times.

One powerful method to get your ex back though, is to listen, not do all the talking. Most likely, your ex broke up with you because you wronged them in some way. Maybe you were too needy or too jealous.

Over time, your ex’s heart started to fill up with negative feelings about you instead of positive ones. Now their heart is full of bad feelings about you. That’s why they left.

To get them back, you’ve got to help them to replace the negative emotions with positive ones. You’ve got to help them to release and resolve the negative feelings.

There is actually a powerful way to help them do this. Get them to vent. Help them to get those bad feelings off their chest. Once they’ve done this, they will start to feel better.

Venting is a way to get your ex to let go of their bad feelings towards you. Sure, you need to apologize and promise to be different in the future, and you’ve got to convince them you can change. But one of the best things to do before you apologize is to get them to vent.

Ask them how they feel about what you did. Then shut up and listen. Don’t argue or defend yourself. Let them blow off steam. Let them dump their frustrations all over you. Focus on making them feel heard and understood. Keep asking them to tell you more until they are done. Let them do all the talking, you just listen.

If you can get them to vent a time or two, they will then have some room in their heart to feel good about you again. Your apology will likely be much better accepted.

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